10 Self-Care Ideas for the Exhausted Homemaker
Self-care is rarely on the homemaker’s to-do list. It doesn’t matter if you are a full-time homemaker or a boss babe that comes home in the evening and then has to do all the homemaking things, it can be exhausting!
But if you are reading this, you are looking for ideas to rejuvenate yourself after you let yourself go a bit and are exhausted by all that you do as a homemaker.
And to be honest…
If you have a husband like mine (we don’t have children yet), he doesn’t care how hard you work in the home.
I know… Ouch! That sucks big time. My husband only cares that there is food on the table and that his clothes are clean. That is basically it. The rest of the never-ending to-do list is what makes me happy. Don’t get me wrong, he does appreciate it, but it is not what makes him happy!
But he would rather have a happy and well looked after wife. The day when I do a little bit more with my appearance, he notices it and will compliment me. When he sees that I do something that makes me happy, he will more often than not, ask me if he can help. The men in our lives really want to see us happy!
So it is important to have some self-care because it will keep your whole family happy. Like the tongue-in-cheek saying goes – “happy wife, happy life!”
Homemakers, stop doing everything yourself!
I am still guilty of this. We take on everything and will happily say “Oh, I’ll do that for you!” And then we feel like we are the only ones doing anything. Why can’t you help me more around here? Can’t you see that I am overworked and so busy?
Stop doing this immediately. It is not serving you or your family. And it will only cultivate bitterness in your heart.
If you want your hubby to help more around the house, consider making him a to-do list. I’ve included a free “Honey do list” printable here that you can download.
But how does self-care fit into my role as a homemaker?
As homemakers, we sometimes need to stop focusing all our attention and energy on serving others and start taking care of ourselves as well. They will be fine for a few minutes if you take some much-needed me-time.
I love this quote from Norm Kelly that says
Self-care is not something you do selfishly. Rather, it is something you do that helps, not only you but your whole family!
But I can’t afford to go to a spa!
I know, I know. Neither can I! (Even though I really want to book myself into a spa weekend) But guess what? Self-care doesn’t need to be expensive. You don’t need all the things that social media wants us to believe we need to be happy and have a fabulous self-care day or in most cases only a few minutes.
We can find simple joys in everyday life, and maybe simplifying some of our routines to free up some time for ourselves. Self-care looks different for everyone. If a lazy one-hour bubble bath is not your cup of tea then don’t do it. Find the things that spark joy for you!
10 Ideas for self-care at home for the homemaker, that almost cost nothing
- Say no to things that are asked of you if it will put more on your already full plate. Better yet, say no because you don’t want to do them.
- If you like gardening, start growing new plants in your garden.
- Keep your home organized, and think of it as a gift to yourself. It is nice to open a cupboard and it looks nice.
- Ask for help around the home… but ask nicely.
- Schedule one day a week where you only spend time on yourself for as long as you can. If that is only an hour, make the most of it. Ask hubby to look after the children, and then you can do whatever you want. If that is taking a long bath with a good book and a glass of wine – do it! If it is spending some time catching up on your favorite series – do it!
- Keep real flowers in your home if you can. They totally brighten your day.
- Set a time of day that you are done with homework, no matter what!
- Make food that you like once in a while. This is especially important if you have picky eaters in your home. They will be fine with sandwiches if they don’t want to eat the food that you made.
- Schedule a coffee date with a friend outside of the house, at least once a month.
- Take an extra 10 minutes to take care of yourself in the morning while getting ready. This could be putting on some makeup or taking a few minutes to really enjoy your skincare routine. Or reading a few pages from your favorite book.
Ask hubby to help around the house
For the last year, when hubby asked me what he can help me with around the house, my mind went completely blank. Even though a few minutes earlier I had a mile-long to-do list in my head that he could help me with. For some reason, at that moment when he asks me, I didn’t know what to say.
So he has been telling me to make him a list of things to do. That way he knows exactly what he needs to do, and he can tick it off when he’s done. This way both of us get what we want.
I don’t know why I’ve been putting it off for so long. But I finally made a pretty printable “honey to-do list” that I’ve put on the fridge. It didn’t even take me that long to make!
I also laminated the printable and uses a dry-erase marker to write on it. This way I don’t waste any paper and I can reuse this page over and over again.
I thought it was so cute that I am sharing it with you today as well! Download below!
What do you do for self-care as a homemaker? I would love to know!